Life – Where is Thy Meaning?
by rebeccaMpells
‘Afternoon Blues’
One of the most asked questions ever. And well into the 21st century it remains unanswered. Even Google falters at this one in an age where image and instant reign on a glorious and exalted unsatisfying high.
For the last six months I have been slowly but surely dismantling the material elements which made up my late father’s life. The process is almost complete, a few final loose ends to tie up and then all semblance of his daily life will be gone and only memories, photographs and a few small heirlooms will survive. You would have to look hard to know he had lived and breathed on this earth for 92 years. What meaning did they have for him – perhaps his four children, three marriages or his Christian religion stoically observed Sunday after Sunday. I will never know.
Both parents gone and you seriously begin to think about your own mortality – the creeping weeks and months which so rapidly descend into years. Don’t let anyone tell you that time doesn’t speed up the older you get – I so does! And yet, with my father’s genes and a brisk prevailing wind I may well see one score year and ten more. Thirty plus more birthdays, thirty plus New Year resolutions to make and break. Thirty plus more chances to live meaningfully.
The thought both elates and alarms in equal measure. On days when things are going well that doesn’t seem long at all – just over half as much again as I have already skipped through – not long into which to squeeze the rest of my life! On others when all seems bleak the time stretches gloomily into a distant grey horizon – oh my, at least half as much again as I have already stressed my way through – how will I fill those long hours and days, keep the anxieties at bay, avoid the blackest clouds and stumble my way to my final hour.
We are cajoled, coaxed, coerced and consumerised into believing that a state of constant happiness is our goal. But the foundation stone of capitalism has become our stumbling block as the constant seeking of happiness proves forever elusive. We try to access it with things, we view it as a destination to be reached and once there we can reside for ever and a day. But I suspect that state cannot be sustained, and is unlikely to provide the meaning for which we search. I don’t think I would want it that way. The meaning and purpose of our lives can often be found in the darkest corners, in those hours which seem the most bleak. But when we eventually emerge into the light once more oh how much sweeter. Like the colours in a painting, the light shines so much more brightly when placed next to the darkest hue.
The meaning is in the doing, in the striving, the anticipation and in the possibility. When we push ourselves beyond our comfort zone, when we are prepared to take a risk, when we allow ourselves to step beyond our familiar threshold and let go. Those times we spend alone, absorbed by our activity and undistracted we truly live the moment. These are the experiences which paint our emotional memories. Sometimes they burn us, sometimes elate but they are soaked into our soul just as the warmth of the sun will transfer the image from a negative onto the salt paper, the fine details captured for posterity. These are the ones which we will recall when we reach our eleventh hour. These are the details which give life meaning.
‘Afternoon Blues’ by Rebecca Pells
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Wonderful thoughts! I especially love the ending.
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Thank you! So glad you enjoyed it.
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A great and timely post. Especially your kind reminder that consumerism is the banana skin on the doorstep of happiness. Why does it take half a lifetime to discover that happiness is over-rated in our society? Those that seek it never find it. Millions of books are written promising happiness. The link between happiness and money has never been pushed harder. One just is and experience life as we make it, both the good and the bad. Who cares about ‘happy?’
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Thanks Gerard. Yes happiness is pushed at us – and of course we then think we are failing if we don’t feel like that all the time. I do wonder if there is a connection to the increasing mental health issues especially in younger people. Love the banana skin reference!
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Beautifully written thoughts, Rebecca. Thoughts we all have when we stop and quiet ourselves for a moment. Yesterday I called my father, who is almost 93 now, and he told me yesterday was 72 years from the most fierce fight he experienced as a young soldier in WW II. Most of his fellow soldiers died that day, and he said he has often wondered why he was offered this long life. And whether or not he had used it well. It was an interesting discussion. I love your painting!
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Thank you Tiny. It is wonderful that you are able to have such conversations with your father. Mine was also in WW II and although talked about it in practical terms wasn’t open to a more philosophical discussion!
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That was a beautiful piece of writing. It is strange how the death of your second parent has such a profound effect as suddenly you are an orphan and your own mortality is highlighted.
Happiness is elusive and touches us all differently. I think contentment is what I aim for and what I want for my children and grandchildren.
Thank you for this thought provoking piece. 🙂
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Thank you for your thoughtful comment. Yes I found loosing my second parent a bit of a game changer! As you say, happiness is elusive – when we find it we try to hold on but like a nebulous cloud it cannot be captured.
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P.S. I love your painting. 🙂
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🙂 🙂
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Your painting superbly catches a quiet moment in time on a warm summer afternoon. Your words are a reminder to heed these quiet moments. It is in the stillness that we are most present and alive. Awareness and gratitude for each passing day add up to a lifetime well lived. And I hope we get to enjoy another score and ten! 🙂
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I love periods of quiet and stillness. Like this entire weekend I have spent painting. Thank you Eliza, so glad you enjoyed the post 🙂
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Rebecca, where are my words for your words today? Your words that so nicely complemented by your painting – or is it the other way around?
Wishing for you that you will run those thirty more years just the way that you want.
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Ha, thanks Bruce. No running involved – just a nice gentle pace, with a little jog now and again!
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An amazing post Rebecca. From your painting which holds very rich and deep threads not only the composition, but your life – an amazing piece of art. Then to the wisdom you bring through family love and experience. As Bruce mentioned the last paragraph says so much, the meaning can’t be ignored – I’ve taken a lot to heart here. Thank you so much for sharing.
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Thank you for such a lovely comment Mary. My meaning was found in the writing and painting and it’s wonderful to hear that you found something in them too.
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Moving musings… Your beautifully lyrical insights and understandings deeply resonate with me. I love and relate to your wise words. Wonderful stuff.
Love your ‘capture’ of your friend doing the blues. In his own space…
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Thank you John. I can’t claim that my words are borne of wisdom but I’m glad they resonate with you. I appreciate your comment.
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